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"Every time I get drunk a huge part of me wants to tell my friends that i’m gay. i never can and either end up getting angry or sad which really sucks. What should i do?"
- Question submitted by Anonymous and answered by Nick Barsuli as a part of Everyone Is Gay: Second Opinions
Whoo boy. Alcohol makes everything tricky. Some people will tell you that our true wants and desires will come out when we’re drunk, so anything said or done while drunk must have been fueled by some sort of subconscious desire.
I say that the people who say that are dumb. Alcohol just lowers our inhibitions. Sure, we might say or do things we wouldn’t while sober, but that doesn’t mean these are things we subconsciously WANT to say or do. A lot of stupid things are said and done while under the influence of alcohol.
Anyway, this brings me to my point: I would sit down for a second and think to yourself if you really want to tell your friends you’re gay. If it’s only when you’re drunk that you feel this desire to tell them, you might not be ready. If, while sober, you think it’s a bad idea, don’t worry about it. It’s a big part of who you are, but your sexuality doesn’t define you as a person. Your friends like you already (I’m guessing), so you’ve got that going for you. When and if you decide to share this with them, they’ll still like you, I promise. If not, there was already a problem with that friendship.
Anger, sadness, and frustration are all natural responses to this sort of situation, and they are feelings typically only made worse by alcohol. My advice to you about this is to take a deep breath, look yourself in the mirror, and remind yourself that you’re pretty damn awesome. Like, seriously. Look at you. You’re great. I love you already. Telling your friends you’re gay can be a really scary thing, but you’ve already done the scariest part, which is realizing it for yourself. After that, you can do anything.
However, do it sober. It’ll mean a lot more to your friends, and it’ll mean a lot more to you. Drunken confessions can get lost in blackouts and hazes, and who knows what. Plus, emotions get a lot more…emotional under the effects of alcohol. Let it be real. It’s scary, I know, but do it sober when you are finally comfortable, and it’ll make a world of difference, I promise.
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